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You're Not Lazy. Here's What's Actually Happening When You Can't Start. You know the feeling. There's something on your to-do list — something that genuinely matters to you — and yet you've been scrolling on your phone for an hour. The…
If you've ever told yourself to "just be kinder to yourself" and found that advice landing somewhere between hollow and maddening, you're not alone. When you're in the thick of depression, self-compassion can sound like something your…
The Gap Between Knowing and Doing Most people who come to therapy already know what would help them feel better — exercise more, set boundaries, stop catastrophizing — but can't seem to do it. The gap isn't knowledge. It's the space…
A trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming look at protective beliefs and psychological flexibility Why Are Old Beliefs So Hard to Change? A trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming look at protective beliefs and psychological…
The myth that therapy means you hand over the wheel! When people imagine therapy, many picture a therapist who directs the client where to go. In reality, good therapy works more like learning to drive with someone in the passenger seat:…
When someone tells me they've been masking for years and "doing fine," I've learned to listen for what that phrase actually means. Masking—suppressing neurodivergent traits, scripting social responses, performing neurotypical…
Working with neurodivergent adults in North York has shown me that self-blame isn't a character flaw but an adaptive response learned early, often before diagnosis. The people I sit with carry a chronic belief that they are the problem,…
ADHD is not a deficit of attention but a difficulty directing it, especially toward tasks that feel unrewarding or abstract. The disorder affects executive function, emotional regulation, working memory, and impulse control, all of which…
Adults with ADHD often develop sophisticated masking strategies over decades, presenting as high-functioning while privately struggling with executive function, emotional regulation, and exhaustion from constant compensation. The gap…
Many autistic adults I work with describe a persistent fear that colleagues will discover they're "performing" neurotypical behavior rather than being authentic. This isn't impostor syndrome in the usual sense; it's the exhausting…
Most people who end up in therapy spent years being the person everyone else leaned on. They're the friend who answers the 2 a.m. call, the sibling who manages the family crisis, the colleague who stays late to cover someone else's work.…
Most people who experience trauma don't develop full PTSD, but that doesn't mean they're fine. Over 70% of us will face at least one traumatic event in our lifetime, yet only about 10% go on to meet diagnostic criteria for post-traumatic…