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By Lynn Northrop, Ph.D. | Licensed Psychologist in CA, CT, FL | ACT Specialist I want to tell you about the fart walk. It was my father’s term — his cheerful, matter-of-fact description of the morning constitutional he took after decades…
Self-gaslighting is the habit of dismissing, minimizing, or rewriting your own experience to align with someone else's version of reality. It often starts as a survival strategy in relationships where doubting yourself felt safer than…
By Lynn Northrop, Ph.D. | Licensed Psychologist in CA, CT, FL Guess what. I am a psychologist and I’ve talked to an AI about my own life. Not as a research experiment. Not to test the technology. Because I was having a hard morning and…
Burnout and depression share exhaustion and hopelessness, but depression adds pervasive emptiness that persists even when stressors ease, loss of interest in things you once enjoyed, and a sense that nothing will improve. If rest no longer…
You're Not Lazy. Here's What's Actually Happening When You Can't Start. You know the feeling. There's something on your to-do list — something that genuinely matters to you — and yet you've been scrolling on your phone for an hour. The…
If you've ever told yourself to "just be kinder to yourself" and found that advice landing somewhere between hollow and maddening, you're not alone. When you're in the thick of depression, self-compassion can sound like something your…
The Gap Between Knowing and Doing Most people who come to therapy already know what would help them feel better — exercise more, set boundaries, stop catastrophizing — but can't seem to do it. The gap isn't knowledge. It's the space…
A trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming look at protective beliefs and psychological flexibility Why Are Old Beliefs So Hard to Change? A trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming look at protective beliefs and psychological…
Yes, your nervous system can learn to feel safe again, though the process happens gradually through repeated experiences of safety rather than through insight alone. When trauma or chronic stress has trained your body to stay on high…
When people imagine therapy, many picture a therapist who directs the client where to go. In reality, good therapy works more like learning to drive with someone in the passenger seat: you hold the wheel, you choose the route, and I help…
When someone tells me they've been masking for years and "doing fine," I've learned to listen for what that phrase actually means. Masking—suppressing neurodivergent traits, scripting social responses, performing neurotypical…
When you're anxious, a breathing exercise might settle you right down. When you're numb or shut down, that same breathing exercise can feel pointless or even make things worse. The reason is simple: different nervous system states need…
Working with neurodivergent adults in North York has shown me that self-blame isn't a character flaw but an adaptive response learned early, often before diagnosis. The people I sit with carry a chronic belief that they are the problem,…
ADHD is not a deficit of attention but a difficulty directing it, especially toward tasks that feel unrewarding or abstract. The disorder affects executive function, emotional regulation, working memory, and impulse control, all of which…
Adults with ADHD often develop sophisticated masking strategies over decades, presenting as high-functioning while privately struggling with executive function, emotional regulation, and exhaustion from constant compensation. The gap…
Eight years ago, I stumbled across a New York TImes article called “Do You Need a Homework Therapist?” I laughed — not because the idea is absurd, but because I’d been doing exactly that informally for over a decade. When I saw how much…
High-functioning anxiety describes people who meet their obligations while managing internal worry that others rarely see. They show up on time, hit deadlines and maintain relationships, but the cost is exhaustion, perfectionism and a…
Most of us are already connected in our “mind and body”. The moment our body feels physical stress, our mind panics right along with it. If you are trying to survive a brutal week or a heavy school semester, perhaps you don’t just need…
You’re about to give a big presentation or you just stepped onto a crowded bus. Your chest tightens, your heart races and you are stressed. There’s no time to meditate for 20 minutes. You need relief now. Your body has a built-in "button"…
Why Trying to Neutralize Intrusive Thoughts Keeps OCD Going People with OCD often notice their symptoms spike hardest when they are trying hardest to stop them. That is not bad luck. It is part of how the disorder sustains itself. The…
Compassionate Inquiry traces the moment a trigger first taught your nervous system to protect you, then helps you integrate that awareness so the old pattern loosens its grip. The approach gently uncovers where a childhood adaptation, once…
Anxiety shows up as physical sensation before it becomes a thought you can name. Most people I work with describe chest tightness, shallow breathing, or stomach tension minutes or even hours before they can articulate what they're anxious…
Many autistic adults I work with describe a persistent fear that colleagues will discover they're "performing" neurotypical behavior rather than being authentic. This isn't impostor syndrome in the usual sense; it's the exhausting…
Most people who end up in therapy spent years being the person everyone else leaned on. They're the friend who answers the 2 a.m. call, the sibling who manages the family crisis, the colleague who stays late to cover someone else's work.…